You Can’t Do It All Yourself: Your Options (Part 2)

May 12, 2022

In my previous blog, I talked about the three things that could be holding you back and causing you to struggle alone.

Now, let's see the three options that you have when you realize you’re trying to do it all yourself:

Option 1: Just keep doing everything yourself

You may choose to do this because you don’t feel you can invest the money to get help or there are tasks you can do faster yourself. But what I often see happen is that people end up suffering from procrastination because when you don't know how to do something, it SLOWS you down. Or when you have some limiting beliefs, perfectionism causes you NOT to do it, or your lack of experience means it takes you so much MORE time.

You might not be able to get a project off the ground or work through it because you just can’t figure it out. This is why many podcasts don’t get published, businesses don’t get started or new products launched. This can even come into your life with not getting the reno done or your health goals met. If you do figure it out, the next challenge is not running out of time to get it done, like a proposal or a bid, or complete a contract.

An example of this is how many unfinished written books are there? I'm guessing millions. This does not include the ones that were abandoned because they were terrible. There are people who have a book, project, movie or a song in their soul and they don't get it out there because they're trying to do it all themselves. I received a call for coaching from a woman who couldn’t get her book done on her own. Even though she sat on her ideas for years, with coaching and accountability she had it written in 8 weeks.

This reminds me of going skydiving. When I signed up, they asked if I wanted to go by myself or do it with someone else. I didn’t need to be an expert at skydiving and yet, I can’t do it by myself. So I was willing to have someone strapped to my back who's going to make it happen for me. It was the fastest, easiest, and least expensive route. It was also the least stressful of the two options. It helped me to reach my goal of skydiving in a very short amount of time.

I wonder in your life:

What are you still trying to do yourself and it's not going well?
What are some projects that you started and haven't been able to finish?
What are opportunities that you have procrastinated on, you ran out of time with, or you didn't even get to do it?
or because you tried to go it alone, when did it cause you to get sick, not get enough sleep, or miss out on some family engagements?
And when has going it alone caused you to act in a way that you're not proud of or it wasn’t the level of quality you wanted to give?

So that's the first option: keep going it alone, but end up not doing it or it being hard.

Option 2: Hire someone to do the work for you

I know not everyone can hire, but there are lots of options out there.

You can do a trade
You could look for a mentor
You can look at it as an investment and just hire someone in that expertise or industry to do it.

I have hired people to set up my podcast and get it launched. I've hired people to do graphic design work for me. Those are not my core competencies. It was money well invested. Notice I didn’t say spent because I know I’d get a return on it.

Even if what they do doesn’t bring you money, it can save you time, energy and money by not making costly mistakes and in the speed at which experts can execute their craft. PLUS, it frees you up to do more income generating activities - thus increasing your profit.

This also will help you to be able to move forward faster.

I know that a lot of you would love to be able to have someone in the third option, to work alongside you.

Option 3: Have someone work alongside you

The benefit of someone working alongside you is they can SHOW you, so you can increase your skills and talents. When they show you and then you have the experience.
For example, I didn't know at first how to publish a book. I had someone walk alongside me and show me what to do. Then I was able to turn around and share that with my team member who then was able to publish the next book for my business.

Having someone work alongside you is such a great opportunity.

Do you want someone to tell you when you have broccoli in your teeth? A mentor, coach, or advisor - can point out that to you. They will let you know about mistakes that are on the horizon or if your mindset or limiting beliefs are holding you back. When your limiting beliefs are processed and you have the tools to deal with them in the future, you can then move the knowledge into any area of your life.

If you bring someone in to work alongside you, like a coach, a consultant, or advisor, you have two options:

Continual: You can have them help you over time with weekly sessions, bi-weekly sessions, monthly sessions, whatever it may be. Over time, you work through the things that are holding you back.

If you want to have support over time, then you don’t have to run your life, your business, your career all by yourself. It’s like boxing and having someone in your corner, ready to support you, ready to help you, ready to wipe off the sweat and give you encouragement and to tell you where to throw your next punch. Then coaching in a monthly capacity, where we do bi-weekly coaching with emailing between sessions is a really great option for you.

Intensive or Immersive: With this option, you have someone with you for one set period of time, like 3 or 5 hours. You're with them to build your experience or to go through a process. You can have them thinking for you, writing for you, creating for you and strategizing for you in the moment.

The beauty of this experience is that in this short, yet powerful time you can accomplish so much really quickly. Since you're with them they can bust through any limiting beliefs that come up. It then empowers you to be able to transfer that knowledge, skill, experience, and better mindset into the next situation.

If you want to go the route of immersive support, then a VIP day is really ideal for you. Some reasons why clients come to me for this:

You need clarity and then a plan to execute it.
You need some support and strategy to reach your current goals.
You have a big idea and want to brainstorm how to do it while also busting through any limiting beliefs that are holding you back.
You have a stuck feeling that you want to get over and are looking for more answers and motivation to get things done.
You want to easily optimize your opportunities and find ways you can do less work and make more money.

I trust you now see, after not one but two blogs, how going it alone is costing you. My invitation for you is to bring me on your team either on a continual basis or with a VIP Day. Not sure which way is best for you to reach your goals? Let’s chat. Schedule a call with me and let’s see how we can work together.

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